Safety Tips for free online dating

Online dating or Internet dating are very popular these days. But online dating has the advantages of its own, it's been misused by many and has its own disadvantages too. Online dating is fun and convenient but still one has to be very careful while dating with someone they hardly know. Here are some tips which may help you to be safe in online dating.

Start slow.
While you are starting a new online dating over the internet, watch out for someone who seems to be good and true. Begin your online dating by communication through Emails. Before Emailing any person be sure that your inner instinct is comfortable with the personal ads or online dating profiles. First send a message for the person whom you are interested, Read well and get to know about them through their online dating profile. During the communication through emails watch out for the odd behavior and inconsistencies. Listen to the correspondent's words in email. In Online dating you must listen each and every word carefully. Remember the person whom you corresponds may not be the true man in real. So trust your inner Instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable walk away from that person for your safety.

Gaurd your personal:
During the online dating process never include your full name, your real email address (if possible create a separate email address for online dating purposes). Don't give any of your personal details like home address, telephone number, work place or any other identifiable information about you. During email communication be careful about your signatures, because they have your personal details. If possible disable them. Stop communicating with the members who are insisting you for these information or trying to trick you to reveal these information. Take time to become comfortable with someone before revealing the personal information. Ask a lot of questions and be sure that the answers are satisfying and without any other second thoughts and meanings.

Caution and common sense.
Careful decisions generally leads to better results in dating, and this is very true with online Dating too. During the initial stages of online dating never trust others and trust yourself. A person will become trustable through constant honorable, fortnight behaviour. You need to test the person and take time for these before you trust the person, and pay careful attention along the way. Be conservative before you trust anyone in online dating. If you think someone lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly.

Request a Photo.
A photo will give a good idea about a person's appearance, which may prove is claims. Never trust a person by single picture, try to get more picture of various locations background and poses. If the person comes up with constant excuses then the person has something to hide something from you.
On a overall picture in online dating our safety is in our hands and mind. If our mind is not trusting others then better move to those whom we trust.

How To Attract Women Online – The Secrets That Took Me A Lifetime To Learn

Think you have to be above average in looks to attract women online?  Guess again. For years I have been teaching men in countries all over the world to successfully meet and date the most beautiful women online, regardless of what they look like, or how much experience they have had with women

In this discussion I am going to explain:
Exactly how attraction works,
The differences between the way men and women experience attraction.
Why men and women experience attraction differently.
Specific examples of exactly how to attract women online.
How does attraction work?

Before we can learn how to create attraction online, we must understand how it works.  What we must understand above all, is that attraction is not a logical choice.

When men and women feel an attraction towards someone else, they don’t sit and logically calculate all the reasons that they feel attracted.  They just know.

Think about the last time you saw a beautiful woman.  Maybe she had nice curves, a great smile, long straight hair, and a nice fit body.  You probably took one look and instantly felt attracted.  It wasn’t a choice.  You just knew, instantly.  This is because the male brain is wired to respond to these types of women.

Attraction is not something we logically sit around and think about.  Nor can we convincesomeone to be attracted by being extremely nice.  Its either felt, or it isn’t.How is attraction different for women?

Women are wired completely differently than men.

Men are extremely visual.  When we see a beautiful face and a curvy body, we are wired to feel an attraction.

Women are not nearly as visual.  This is where we luck out.  Women are mainly attracted to men based on their internal qualities.  When they meet men who have certain personality traits, they feel an instant attraction the same way that we do when we see a beautiful woman.

It isn’t a logical choice.  They just feel it.  It is our job to learn how to demonstrate these qualities online, and make women feel an attraction that they can’t control.  (More on this later)

According to the my research, there are ten basic principles that any man can use to make women feel an attraction that they can’t control, and unlimited ways to apply them online.Why are the male and female brain wired differently?

Hundreds of years of evolution.  Men always stood the best chance of having a fertile baby by mating with women who were healthy looking, had clear skin, wide hips, etc.  In modern times, this translates to beautiful women who are curvy and have great bodies.  Hence, men are mostly visual.

Throughout history women sought men who gave them the best chance to survive.  These were men who were protectors, providers, caretakers etc.  In modern times, this translates to men who are alpha males, have value in society, show ambition, etc.

It all comes down to evolutionary wiring that still has an effect to this day.
You say looks don’t matter, but they must matter a little right?

Looks matter.  They just don’t matter to the extent that most men think they do.  Just about any man can make himself attractive enough by putting together the right wardrobe, facial hair, and haircut.
Looks matter more in the sense that we have to look presentable enough for women to take us around family and friends (social approval).  If we can accomplish this, demonstrating the right internal qualities will make up for the shortcomings we may have with the looks we are born with.

Just look at all the beautiful women in society who are with guys that aren’t exactly handsome.  These men have tapped into the other areas of attraction, whether they realize it or not.
This all makes a lot of sense, but how to I translate this into learning how to attract women online?

Now that we understand how attraction works, we can easily use this knowledge to learn how to attract women online.

We already learned that there are ten basic ways to make any woman feel attraction.  Once learning what these methods are, attracting women online is easy.

All we have to do is take them, and infuse them into our written profiles, emails, and photo galleries in as many ways as we possible can.  There are literally unlimited ways to do so, .Let’s take a look at an example of how to attract women online with excellent profile writing:

Suppose I want to write what I do for a living.  If I were to write,

“I work in sales and love my job,”

I have just bored the reader of my profile to death. This statement does nothing to stand out from the hundreds of other men competing for my girl.  She will likely move right on to the next profile.

Now let’s change this sentence by using an understanding of how attraction works:
Original statement:

“I work in sales and love my job.”

New statement:

“Most days of the week you will find me competing for the top sales records in my department.  Not only do I get to pursue my passion for a living, but I also get to lead, help others, and meet interesting people every day.  What could possibly be better?  Well, aside from a date with me.  Wink, Wink.”

Now I have taken the the previous sentence, and infused attraction builders by showing ambition, leadership, alpha male qualities, humor, and social value (just to name a few).  And this is only one sentence. Imagine the power that writing every line of your profiles and emails with such attention to detail can have.

This is why the online dating help that The REAL Online Game provides has a success rate of over 99%.

Finally…

It is important to understand that if we don’t learn the art of attracting women online by understanding the principles of attraction, then women will judge us based solely on what we look like.  A profile filled with boring questions, cliches, and statements, leave women with no choice but to be shallow.  Its not their fault.

But if we do learn how to attract women online the right way, we will make them feel an attraction that they can’t control, because let’s face it, attraction isn’t a choice, and you can’t fight science.

50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind

These questions have no right or wrong answers.
Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

Which is worse, failing or never trying?

If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?

If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

Would you break the law to save a loved one?

Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?

What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?

What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?

Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?

Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?

Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?

Why are you, you?

Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

What are you most grateful for?

Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?

Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?

Has your greatest fear ever come true?

Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?

What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?

At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?

If not now, then when?

If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?

Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?

Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?

If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?

Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?

Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?

When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?

Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?

What is the difference between being alive and truly living?

When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?

If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?

Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

By Martha Beck

In the past 10 years, I’ve realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I’m most grateful to have unlearned:

1. Problems are bad. You spent your school years solving arbitrary problems imposed by boring authority figures. You learned that problems — comment se dit? — suck. But people without real problems go mad and invent things like base jumping and wedding planning. Real problems are wonderful, each carrying the seeds of its own solution. Job burnout? It’s steering you toward your perfect career. An awful relationship? It’s teaching you what love means. Confusing tax forms? They’re suggesting you hire an accountant, so you can focus on more interesting tasks, such as flossing. Finding the solution to each problem is what gives life its gusto.

2. It’s important to stay happy. Solving a knotty problem can help us be happy, but we don’t have to be happy to feel good. If that sounds crazy, try this: Focus on something that makes you miserable. Then think, “I must stay happy!” Stressful, isn’t it? Now say, “It’s okay to be as sad as I need to be.” This kind of permission to feel as we feel — not continuous happiness — is the foundation of well-being
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3. I’m irreparably damaged by my past. Painful events leave scars, true, but it turns out they’re largely erasable. Jill Bolte Taylor, the neuroanatomist who had a stroke that obliterated her memory, described the event as losing “37 years of emotional baggage.” Taylor rebuilt her own brain, minus the drama. Now it appears we can all effect a similar shift, without having to endure a brain hemorrhage. The very thing you’re doing at this moment — questioning habitual thoughts — is enough to begin off-loading old patterns. For example, take an issue that’s been worrying you (“I’ve got to work harder!”) and think of three reasons that belief may be wrong. Your brain will begin to let it go. Taylor found this thought-loss euphoric. You will, too.

4. Working hard leads to success. Baby mammals, including humans, learn by playing, which is why “the battle of Waterloo was won on the playing fields of Eton.” Boys who’d spent years strategizing for fun gained instinctive skills to handle real-world situations. So play as you did in childhood, with all-out absorption. Watch for ways your childhood playing skills can solve a problem (see #1). Play, not work, is the key to success. While we’re on the subject…

5. Success is the opposite of failure. Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure.

 6. It matters what people think of me. “But if I fail,” you may protest, “people will think badly of me!” This dreaded fate causes despair, suicide, homicide. I realized this when I read blatant lies about myself on the Internet. When I bewailed this to a friend, she said, “Wow, you have some painful fantasies about other people’s fantasies about you.” Yup, my anguish came from my hypothesis that other people’s hypothetical hypotheses about me mattered. Ridiculous! Right now, imagine what you’d do if it absolutely didn’t matter what people thought of you. Got it? Good. Never go back.

7. We should think rationally about our decisions. Your rational capacities are far newer and more error-prone than your deeper, “animal” brain. Often complex problems are best solved by thinking like an animal. Consider a choice you have to make — anything from which movie to see to which house to buy. Instead of weighing pros and cons intellectually, notice your physical response to each option. Pay attention to when your body tenses or relaxes. And speaking of bodies…

8. The pretty girls get all the good stuff. Oh, God. So not true. I unlearned this after years of coaching beautiful clients. Yes, these lovelies get preferential treatment in most life scenarios, but there’s a catch: While everyone’s looking at them, virtually no one sees them. Almost every gorgeous client had a husband who’d married her breasts and jawline without ever noticing her soul.

9. If all my wishes came true right now, life would be perfect. Check it out: People who have what you want are all over rehab clinics, divorce courts, and jails. That’s because good fortune has side effects, just like medications advertised on TV. Basically, any external thing we depend on to make us feel good has the power to make us feel bad. Weirdly, when you’ve stopped depending on tangible rewards, they often materialize. To attract something you want, become as joyful as you think that thing would make you. The joy, not the thing, is the point.

10. Loss is terrible. Ten years ago I still feared loss enough to abandon myself in order to keep things stable. I’d smile when I was sad, pretend to like people who appalled me. What I now know is that losses aren’t cataclysmic if they teach the heart and soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing. A real tragedy? That’s the loss of the heart and soul themselves. If you’ve abandoned yourself in the effort to keep anyone or anything else, unlearn that pattern. Live your truth, losses be damned. Just like that, your heart and soul will return home.